It's hard to determine just who people really are anymore. Or maybe it's always been that way. The golden rule is that actions speak much louder than words. But we all like to ignore that rule for some reason. I don't know if it's because we try to be smarter than the rule, but I have been hurt many times over because I forget this rule. How many times have you been hurt by someone claiming to be a friend? Some people in this world make up their own rules for friendship. They think that they can act any way they please towards you, and can still be a friend at the end of the day. Right? No! A friend has to treat you the way that you want to be treated. Not the way that they have decided to treat you!
As long as your alive on this earth, you have a right to make boundaries, limits, and expectations. You have the right to say yes when you want to, and you have the right to say no when you want to. No one can control you unless you allow that control. If they get mad at you, that's fine. Let them be mad. But now, if a year passes and they are still mad, or seem to be holding a grudge towards you. Let them go! They have the problem, not you. You will see exactly who they are as time goes on.
Try to learn the art of uncovering the wolves in sheep's clothing. It is an art that I have not mastered yet myself. But I believe that it can be mastered! I believe if this world were a world full of Judge Judy's, this world would be a different place. I happen to love Judge Judy. Some people think she is a bitch. Those people who think she is a bitch, however, are they the ones that try to get away with underhanded deeds? Maybe we should all ask ourselves that question. People will tell on themselves a lot when they speak. You just have to learn how to listen.
Don't let friends influence your thinking pattern. Don't let friends tell you how you feel. Because these people are red flags in my own opinion. There are some things nobody has the ability to know unless they have some otherworldly power granted to them by some God. When people feel comfortable enough to start telling you what's going on in your head,...they will soon be trying to tell you when you can change your underwear too. I am being serious! Some people will trade in an inch for a mile if you allow it.
Trust! Never allow anyone to tell you when you trust them! They have to earn it! I don't care if they work hard to earn your trust for 35 years. Make them do it anyway! Those that really don't care if you ever trust them will act accordingly. The ones who are sincere about earning your trust will again act accordingly. The keyword here-"act" Back to the golden rule. Actions speak much louder than words. The last life lesson is this. The world has billions of people on it. I don't know most of the people in my community, and it's a fairly small town. The world is full of associates, or acquaintances. But friends are far and in between. I'm serious. I know the world is all social media now. Twitter, Instagram, etc. Don't be fooled by the one thousand friends you may have on Facebook. At best, you may have five real friends. You're doing good if you have three friends.
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